So, how do you control social anxiety?
It’s a question that continues to bug a lot of social anxiety sufferers from all around the world. It’s also a shame that many sufferers don’t actually know they have a known disorder in the first place. It’s a pity as there are good cures for the disorder these days, and yet, if you don’t know you are a sufferer, you will continue to be unaware of this.
It’s an important issue because the condition is not rare. In the past decade the US National Cormorbidity Survey has discovered that it’s actually the most common anxiety disorder.
Social anxiety has a wide ranging impact on the life of those who suffer it. Sufferers often dread social gatherings preferring to remain within the ‘security’ of their shell. Many tremble uncontrollably and visibly when called upon to speak in public.
Social anxiety has various symptoms. Not least is an acute fear, or intense anxious state, over an upcoming event. Sufferers blush, sweat, encounter a racing heart, tremble or, even worse, faint.
There are some basic steps you can implement now. There is also a huge amount of additional know how and information available at the links below.
Learn how to relax your body so you can take it out of overdrive and start to exercise control. Meditation, yoga, aromatherapy, and even relaxing pursuits like listening to gentle music, all assist. Although these, on their own, are not complete anxiety treatments.
Get enough sleep
Being tired only serves to encourage your anxious state. You know how it is – you’re mentally tired, but you can’t sleep. Trouble is, if you are in this state you are giving yourself another thing about which to be anxious. More than that, when you’re tired, but you don’t get sufficient sleep, you’re mind starts to harbour negative feelings (more than usual) and your mind becomes a breeding ground for anxious thoughts.
Adjust your brain
The most important thing you need to do is to engage in a self-help program which will teach your brain how to perceive information, and events, differently.
If you think about it, you will realise that if your mind can think in terms of events so negatively then, it can also do the opposite, and reconstruct those events with a positive interpretation. How do less anxious people process information? Actually no differently (we all have the same human components after all). It’s just that their brain is programmed with the constructive switch turned on, not the negative one!
You’re actually just the same as everyone else. You have the same brain and you have the same switching functionality. Only difference being your negative switch is turned on, and your positive switch turned off. It’s very simple, get your switching turned the other way (just like positive people have it set).
Keep doing what you’re doing
It’s easy to hide under a rock. But it won’t resolve your dilemma. But trying to have a positive approach, when you’re brain is switched over to negative, isn’t a great idea either. So, first step is to get your switching corrected and then do all the things you wish you could do now but without the anxious state.
It may be hard to appreciate right now but, by continuing to be socially inept, means that a great source of life’s enjoyment is unavailable to you and you’re missing out. The daft thing is, it’s easy to resolve, and you can start resolving it right away.
Professional help is always available and is something you may wish to consider if your condition is bad. Many doctors prescribe anti-depressants in such situations which is really not what you want. You may well acquire side effects and you may become dependent on the treatment. Very often the strong need to continue with the medication, coupled with the new side effects, gives you yet more things to feel anxious about!
Another common traditional treatment is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy which attempts to understand your psychological make-up when reacting to uncomfortable events. This enables the doctor to help train you to see outcomes differently and more constructively. It can be a very useful technique. But it doesn’t work for everybody.
But there is good news. Over the past 30 to 50 years a lot of novel research has been carried out in the field of anxiety and some very effective and interesting new therapies developed. The great thing is many can be implemented in the privacy of your own home without the need for others to know.
And the other great thing is, once you know which of these novel approached works best, the results can be rapid and astounding. For more information, click on the links below.
Douglas Barker is renowned for delivering punchy key fact sheets in the field of life enhancement. This includes expert advice at the How to Control Anxiety website, where you will also find crucial aids on social anxiety at the Control Anxiety page.